#1,685 Difficulties.

For those of you who might read this blog and think that “life is always perfect” for me, I need you to know that today was not perfect.

It was hard.
It hurt.
The older we get, and as our little homegrown business is changing and growing, I learn about someone new every day who says something cruel about me or about Ben or the way they perceive us to be, or our jobs. And I go right back to that childhood feeling—of being different, an outcast, unloved by people you want so badly to be your friend, or even thought were your friends. Why is it so hard to accept that you can’t make everyone like you? You sometimes can’t change a person’s heart, and it hurts. You can pray about it, and I think it’s best to pray that you can find a way to love them back anyway. Even if they don’t. Sometimes you won’t know why people just don’t like you. And we have to thank God for those people, for the difficulties that make us try new paths, and learn new ways to love and carry on. Right? It’s not the end of the world, but when you have a tender heart like mine, it can sure feel like it.
I won’t spend any more energy or words on that—I just need you to know. Life is not perfect here. But every day (even the predominantly awful ones) can present their own perfect gifts. 
Like going for a swim in the dog days of summer.
Like the simple kindness of real mail.
And the sage wisdom of friends near and far who make the world feel small, and like your experience is theirs too. 


Monday, July 28th, 2014

Daily Journal

11 thoughts on “#1,685 Difficulties.

  1. You guys do have a great life with lots of friends. I'm sure others are jealous of that. Maybe what they don't see is how much you guys both do for others or how hard y'all work! I think y'all are precious. If they don't, it's their problem. Not yours. Have a great day!

  2. So sorry that you are hurting. I don't understand why some people are so mean, but I hope you will keep your heart tender, even if it means it gets hurt sometimes.

    We all know that life is not always wonderful, despite what we post on Facebook or online for others to see. But it is nice to come here everyday and see a spot of sunshine. It reminds me to be grateful for all the blessings that I have. And when we focus on gratitude, it gets easier to see the good things and harder to complain about our first-world problems.

    Thanks for being a happy spot in my day. I hope today you will find lots of things that bring a smile to your face.


  3. It amazes me how cruel people can be and somehow find satisfaction in being that way. But I truly believe that people who make the time to be rude and unkind have something in their lives making them unhappy or unfulfilled, which in turn makes them feel the need to take that out on others. It's sad.
    Keep your chin up. You have a life you love and a successful business that you have grown with talent and hard work. Those people who want to try and take any ounce of your happiness away, if they were friends, don't deserve to be.
    I love reading your blog everyday and following along on Instagram. Without even knowing you personally, I consider you a friend, and cheer you from afar on all your achievements with your business, especially since I can relate and hope someday I will be able to take the plunge and go out on my own as a designer as well. You are an inspiration!


  4. I too have a tender heart like yours, and hurt like that sinks deep. Recently had one of those facing the facts of life–not everyone will like you, and not everyone will be your friend forever. And it consumed my thoughts there for a while. So easy to get lost in the negatives of life, instead of focusing on the friends you do have, the family you do have, and those that love you no matter what. And that is why coming to your blog is so uplifting. No you're life is not perfect, but for a moment you can reflect on the good in the midst of the bad. You can look back at your life and not have to recall all the bad moments–which sometimes tend to stand out more than good moments–so here on this little bit of the world wide web, your good memories are the only ones that last. I really like that.

  5. You can be the ripest, juiciest peach in the whole wide world and there's still going to be someone who hates peaches. Their loss, Erin. Keep your chin up.

  6. Thank y'all so much for the encouragement. I knew I could count on you to make me feel better about things. So thankful for each of you!

  7. They're probably speaking out of their own pain, fears, hurts. Those who are deeply wounded hurt others. I sure think you're doing right by praying for them. So sorry for your hurts, friend.

  8. It never ceases to amazing me that people can be so unkind and cruel to others. I'm so sorry you've had to deal with this. I've been there and frankly it sucks.
    You and Ben are such great people, who have so much to be proud of. Don't let the jealousy of other overshadow the wonderful things you're accomplishing. For every coward out there who says something negative, you've got so many more people who are behind you cheering you on. Keep on doing what you love and enjoying your successes. You go girl!

    • Thank you so much for that, Jana. I don't know how we've never met. It makes no sense. But if someone mentioned you, I'd say "she's a friend of mine!"

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